Marking that dreadful day, I decided to write every 12th of each month. It liberated all the emotions inside me. It accompanied me as I journey on. And today it turned a year old. 12 blog posts full of yearning, affliction and torment.
“I leave it up to 2018 to surprise me”. Same date last year when I posted this statement on my first blog for 2018. In the past, I used to write my goals and plans at the start of each year. But in 2018, I didn’t. I broke my own rules and welcomed spontaneity. Little did I know that after publishing that post, I was few hours away from receiving the “surprise” that 2018 had for me.
It was the worst, devastatingly shocking surprise. It ripped all the sh*t out of me. Marking that dreadful day, I decided to write every 12th of each month. It liberated all the emotions inside me. It accompanied me as I journey on. And today it turned a year old. 12 blog posts full of yearning, affliction and torment.
On its anniversary date, I was thinking of writing the same thing. Later on, I changed my mind. I realized no matter how much I write, the pain will never goes away. This longing and emptiness will never end. The torment will always remain. All it will do is to consume what is left of me. I know whoever the reason for this pain will never want me to stay this way. That someone would like me to find the strength to go on, to live this life.
That day took the most important person in my life. I will never forget it. Far more, I will remember that someone as long as I shall live.
Hey 2018, I cant wait to leave you! The pain you brought me was the worst and the hardest that I had endured. I didn’t even know how I was able to pull through, but I did.
At the same time, a part of me would like to hold on to you. Leaving you means I will have to leave the last year that we shared together. Facing an entire year without my hero.
But life goes on as they say, no matter how hard it had been. I’ll bring with me memories not just of 2018 but all the years weve been together. Now, I bravely welcome you 2019, for whatever it is you have in store for me.
12th day of the 12th month of the year:
January – First birthday
February – First whole month
March – First summer outing
April – First church event
May – First Mother’s day
June – First visit to salon
July – First hospitalization
August – First sleep over in our new home
September – First job shift
October – First Gabe’s competition
November – First annual out of town trip
December – First family reunion
The iconic song “Ang Huling El Bimbo” was brought to the musical theater and I got the chance to watch it last night. It was a story about friendship of four college students named Joy, Jay, Emman and Hector. The play revolved around building relationship and how it was tested by a horrible incident. Eventually, this drifted them apart, leaving them with unresolved issues. The only girl among the group, Joy suffered the most. She did not finish college, endured life of poverty, got a child out of wed-lock and struggled hard to sustain their daily means. As how the song Ang Huling El Bimbo ended, “at isang gabi, nasagasaan sa isang madilim na eskinita”, eventually Joy encountered a tragic death.
For it was already one hell of a sobering song, putting it to play is a lot more distressing. The last act was soulful and intense. After 20 years, the boys came over to pay their last respect to Joy. It was the boys’ graduation when they last met and didn’t communicate thereafter. Full of regrets, what ifs and repentance. Sadly, Joy will no longer hear them.
Coping up with the cruelties and struggles that this world brings, we tend to overlooked those who have been with us from the beginning. As we aged, we conquer our own battle. We wasted our time dwelling over material things, fame and success. Consequently, it allowed us to neglect our families and friends, the core who unceasingly supported us. When they depart, regardless of the amount of time that we spent with them, we still wished we had more time. Imagine how painful it will be for someone who failed to do so. Life indeed is short. So this I have to say, make time for friendships and relationships. Don’t wait till its too late.
Dance with them as if it will be the last.
How can you lose someone you never had? How can you afford to lose someone you truly love?
How can you lose someone you never had?
How can you afford to lose someone you truly love?
We often hear people say “Everything happens for a reason”. No matter how much we wanted to seek answers to so many why’s, we hold our stand in believing that someday everything will soon make perfect sense. Tragedy tests our patience. It can leave us devastated, emotionally drained and most of the time we blame ourselves for all the ridicule that this cruel world brought us.
Where can we get the courage to move on? How can we start all over? When will this pain ends? It will be a long and hard battle to win. A lot of lessons to learn, tears to shed, hearts to mourn. Things get worst before it gets better. With all these circumstances, our faith must hold us together. Let it go. Continue to trust in Him. Instead, don’t ask why, seek for His answer.
Fly now our angels.
Paano kita papalayain?
Isang bagay na kay hirap gawin
Alaala mo na araw-araw kong kapiling,
Ang pagpapalaya ba sa akin ay darating
Sa isang iglap, sa isang kurap,
Pagkawala mo’y hindi ko matanggap
Ang iyong haplos sa bawat sakit,
Hindi ko na kailanman makakamit
Sadyang ang panahon ay kay bilis sayo’y dumating,
Pagmamahal mo sa amin mo lang pinarating
Kung maari lamang na ikaw ay aming bawiin,
Ang sakit sa aming puso’y papawiin
Ang iyong mga tinurong aral aking babaunin,
Pagmamahal mo kahit saan ay dadalhin
Paano ba kita papalayain?
Ikaw na nagbigay ng buhay sa akin.
I was up last night thinking about Anthony Bourdain’s death. It has been a series of suicide, depression and mental health condition events that caused these personalities to took their own lives. I lost a loved one due to a heart condition. I witnessed how she fought hard to live. She would have done anything and everything to extend her life to be with us. I will never condemn or question those people with depression on why they did what they did. But I can’t help but to wonder, how does this condition affect one’s thinking? What’s going through their mind? What are they feeling?
I may not be able to answer all these questions on my mind, but for now, all I know is that its a battle. A battle that must be taken seriously. I pray fervently to those who are still suffering this battle, that they will find the courage to suppress it, win over it and wake up to another day.
Craving for the sound of your voice,
I wont hear it, I have no choice
No matter how much I long for your touch,
I cant hold you, holes in my heart I cannot patch.
My eyes wants to see your face,
I close it for memories I wont erase
Every waking day, your hug, your kiss,
Unselfish love, I will forever miss.
My prayers each night for a chance to be with you again,
But devastating to know from me, you are taken
So early, you left me,
My soul cries for all that can’t be.
Regrets.. Full of it..
For time unspent, for words unspoken, for actions undone.
For days I wasn’t there, for moments I allowed to pass by, for thinking that there will still be tomorrow.
Regrets.. Lack of it..
For spoiling you, for making you happy, for giving you what you deserved.
For taking care of you, for loving you.
Until your last breath.